He should be 100% embarrassed about it. If he had even the slightest morsel of self-awareness, embarrassment may have prevented his incursion into your space.
But that's one of the problems though, isn't it? Even if Frank felt embarrassed, men like him don't know how to sit with it and understand it, instead lashing out in other ways, a doubling-down if you will, in words (like he did) or worse.
It comes down to men being laughed at, in this case for audacious stupidity.
There's a line Forrest Gump utters "Stupid is as stupid does."
We really do need a good sense of humor to do this work. Thanks for making me smile with this sweet as pie take down of the Franks of the world. I loved it.
Years ago, when email was new and social media didn't exist, I read a comment on a BBS. A woman who worked in tech said when men are jerks to her, she grabs their email address and feeds it to a spambot. She called it a community service because it will keep them busy digging out for a while. This post made me remember her lol.
Funnily enough…Actaeon was mentioned in a book I just read, The Hymn to Dionysus. It was excellent, highly recommend if you’re looking for a Greek myth, queer love story that deals with trauma and duty and nature, but with sweary, snarky characters.
I like rant. It has the right amount of righteousness about it and a slight bit of unhinged, enough to throw folks off balance ;-). Thanks for reading!
"Despite my perennial disappointment that vagina dentata is not real—for protection purposes, you understand, not offensive pussy chomping, we don’t bite."
What? It's not real? I'm disappointed too. Then, how do I explain all the men I've emasculated in my lifetime? Just kidding. I sometimes confuse my fantasy life with my real one.
And yay! I can't wait for the slam tomorrow. I love the way you spell Feminist with a capital EFF!!!! And you are officially my Feminist She-ro. That is all. xo
Hahahaha. I enjoyed that soooo much. It smelled like... victory. My favorite was the little Frank who called me a "yeasty cunt." I've never forgotten. For some reason, that one stuck with me above all the others. Too bad, indeed, that it doesn't have teeth, that old male horror movie dating all the way back to the ancient Romans, the progenitors of our current Western Civilization's mysogyny. Ilf Frank grew a pair (of ovaries), they'd be willing to feel their feelings. OOOOhhh. I know, too scary, all those difficult emotions. Better to project them outwards, you know, at people, as violence. But what do I know? Perhaps those emotions WOULD kill you. So, that justifies it.
Couldn't help but pile on.
Thanks, Dina, for always being such a light. So funny, too. Gorgeous voice. I learn something very cool each week in the rhythm of your syntax.
Ok, well points for yeasty over old, I guess. The sad part is that we do remember the ones that stick, and sometimes they hurt. But I’m betting the ones who hurl those things out into the world never remember. I will forever be mad about the lack of dentata…makes total sense to me!
"premature argumentation"!!! 😆
It happens to the best of them, @Kari Roetman. Nothing to be embarrassed about ;-).
He should be 100% embarrassed about it. If he had even the slightest morsel of self-awareness, embarrassment may have prevented his incursion into your space.
But that's one of the problems though, isn't it? Even if Frank felt embarrassed, men like him don't know how to sit with it and understand it, instead lashing out in other ways, a doubling-down if you will, in words (like he did) or worse.
It comes down to men being laughed at, in this case for audacious stupidity.
There's a line Forrest Gump utters "Stupid is as stupid does."
We really do need a good sense of humor to do this work. Thanks for making me smile with this sweet as pie take down of the Franks of the world. I loved it.
If you go back one or two posts of mine, there he was, in the flesh. :-)
Years ago, when email was new and social media didn't exist, I read a comment on a BBS. A woman who worked in tech said when men are jerks to her, she grabs their email address and feeds it to a spambot. She called it a community service because it will keep them busy digging out for a while. This post made me remember her lol.
Damn. She-ro!
You certainly have a way with words and not one swear word. Loved this set down to Frank he deserved it💕
Thanks, Mom ;-).
You have the smartest Dina in the world. I adore her and her writing. Thanks for bringing her into our lives. xo
“Premature argumentation” 🤣. Your wordsmithing is epic!
Ooh. I might put that on my bio. Epic wordsmith :-). Thank you!
Funny thing is my name is Frank but I believe I know which Frank probably inspired this. He gets around…
Frankly, Frank is everywhere, Frank! But thanks for being frank, Frank—it’s appreciated ;-).
I won’t say “not all Franks.” Frank you for your attention to this matter!
Well said. And this 🤏🏼 made me laugh.
I’m glad I bring a smile—Lord knows we all need them these days.
It was so right on.
Me, too 🤣
More laughing. I think we need more laughing.
“Sometimes we get Wednesdays off.” LOL.
Only sometimes, though.
Frank! Ah, I remember him well. Thank you for writing this, Dina. I wanted to suggest to him that he read the myth of
Actaeon, but decided to just a get few digs in.
Funnily enough…Actaeon was mentioned in a book I just read, The Hymn to Dionysus. It was excellent, highly recommend if you’re looking for a Greek myth, queer love story that deals with trauma and duty and nature, but with sweary, snarky characters.
Sounds fabulous
males suffering from correctile dysfunction
Poor Frank...🥺
Fantastic. Frank was here a couple months ago and quite frankly I don’t think he’ll ever be back.
He left with his tail, wagging between his legs.
I love your vivid vocabulary.
If there is a particular post, you’re speaking about. I would love to see it. Good for the learning curve. 🔥
There was a real Frank on my Bad Feminist post, but honestly, he was pretty mild. But I think we’ve all encountered a Frank (or twenty) in our lives….
So good! Laughed out loud. Many thanks.
And many your welcomes in return :-). Thank you for reading!
@dina thanks for the awesome takedown (is “rantrum” a word?) 🤓🤣💪🏻💪🏽💪🏿💪🏿
I like rant. It has the right amount of righteousness about it and a slight bit of unhinged, enough to throw folks off balance ;-). Thanks for reading!
"Despite my perennial disappointment that vagina dentata is not real—for protection purposes, you understand, not offensive pussy chomping, we don’t bite."
What? It's not real? I'm disappointed too. Then, how do I explain all the men I've emasculated in my lifetime? Just kidding. I sometimes confuse my fantasy life with my real one.
And yay! I can't wait for the slam tomorrow. I love the way you spell Feminist with a capital EFF!!!! And you are officially my Feminist She-ro. That is all. xo
Hahahaha. I enjoyed that soooo much. It smelled like... victory. My favorite was the little Frank who called me a "yeasty cunt." I've never forgotten. For some reason, that one stuck with me above all the others. Too bad, indeed, that it doesn't have teeth, that old male horror movie dating all the way back to the ancient Romans, the progenitors of our current Western Civilization's mysogyny. Ilf Frank grew a pair (of ovaries), they'd be willing to feel their feelings. OOOOhhh. I know, too scary, all those difficult emotions. Better to project them outwards, you know, at people, as violence. But what do I know? Perhaps those emotions WOULD kill you. So, that justifies it.
Couldn't help but pile on.
Thanks, Dina, for always being such a light. So funny, too. Gorgeous voice. I learn something very cool each week in the rhythm of your syntax.
Ok, well points for yeasty over old, I guess. The sad part is that we do remember the ones that stick, and sometimes they hurt. But I’m betting the ones who hurl those things out into the world never remember. I will forever be mad about the lack of dentata…makes total sense to me!
Made total sense to them to, or they wouldn’t have invented it. They really are terrified of us.